3.22.2017

To the Men of Infertility


If I had a dollar for every time I said, "you don't understand," then, well, we'd be a lot richer than I'd like to admit.

When a couple is going through infertility treatments, the empathy, concern and support is almost always geared towards the woman in the scenario. And, well - rightfully so. After all, we're the ones who are hopping up on hormones, shooting ourselves in the gut {or butt}, getting blood-draw-after-blood-draw, and bearing the weight of the guilt and pressure on our shoulders. 

But, because of those raging hormones, it's the man in the scenario who braves the storm, and really, at the end of the day - shoulders the most. The difference is, we as women get to scream about it—usually at the man—while they have to take the brunt of the hormones, all while simultaneously supporting us and our wild emotions. 

While the men of infertility may not be the ones going through the actual treatments, they are dealing with a hardship that may be even worse. He doesn't just lose his chance at a baby—he loses a piece of his wife. 

While she's consumed with emotions, he's wiping tears. While she's broken into a million pieces, he's holding you together. While she's losing hope, he's keeping both of you going. While she's losing her childhood dreams of being a mom, he's losing you. 

To my man of infertility:

Thank you for shooting me in the stomach when I was a wuss - and acting like "shot time" was always something we were both doing, instead of just me.

I'm sorry for that time I threw a picture frame at your head, when all you were trying to do was talk me off the insanity-ledge.

Thank you for the times you took off work to attend the umptheenth appointment that really had nothing to do with you - just so I could hold your hand.

You're incredible for holding back your emotions when we had a miscarriage, so that you could pick me up off the bathroom floor.

Thank you for finding 87 million different ways to say "we can do this—YOU can do this" when I wanted to give up {because you knew I didn't actually want to give up}.

I can't believe the jabs you would take, the scowls that would bounce right off of you, the "get off me's" you would push right past to hold me - all while I screamed and yelled and treated you way less than you ever deserved.

I wish that while you were busy shouldering all of my fears, anger, and heartbreak - someone was shouldering all of those things for you.

Thank you for acting like "dealing with me" while we tried to conceive for years was something you wanted to do - not something you had to do. Thank you for "dealing with me" - period.

I know that "not understanding" what I was going through was probably just as hard for you, as it was for me. I'm sure you would have given anything to understand - to be the one who could go through it, instead of me. 

I had a hunch, but I never knew that you were hurting just as bad, until you stood up there at our gender reveal and choked up while thanking everyone for supporting us for the last two and a half years. In that moment I realized how very thankful you were to not only have our babies on the way—but also to have your wife back. 

Most of all - thank you for being strong enough to keep going when I wasn't, because without you, we wouldn't have the two most perfect rainbow babies on earth.

To all men of infertility - the support, shouldering, and frames you dodge doesn't go unnoticed. Keep going, so we can <3

 
March 22, 2016 - Moments after the IUI that turned into the Cagle Twinlets <3 

XO,
Nik 

Psst...More on the dreaded world of infertility:

http://creatingthesilverlining.blogspot.com/2016/07/10-things-not-to-say-to-someone-trying.html

http://creatingthesilverlining.blogspot.com/2016/08/what-they-dont-tell-you-about.html

2.01.2017

2017 Fitness Inspiration Calendar

Every year I make a fitness inspiration calendar that I hang in my workout room and glance over at when I need an extra push. Sometimes it gives me a chuckle, sometimes a nod of "you know that's right!" and sometimes it lights a much-needed fire under my bum. I also jot down every workout that I do on the calendar so I can track my progress and beat my PR's! There's no better competition than yourself.

Here are my favorite 12 fitness quotes that I used for my 2017 calendar {thanks for that, Pinterest}! I always use Vistaprint to create my calendars because they have great deals and good quality. #winwin

{January}


Word.

{February} 

 

Okay, so, yea, I'm doing it for me...but there are two new humans in my life who also push me to be the best me I can be. So I can play with them, run with them, and be there for them for a very, very long time. 

{March}


Remember how I said some of these quotes light a fire under my bum? #caseinpoint

{April}

 

Like skinny jeans.

{May}

 

Anything before that point was too easy. Push past the point when you want to stop—that'll make the real difference. 

{June} 
  
 

A little summer inspiration for ya. 

{July}

 

This one just plain cracked me up. Don't waste that fairy's dust, yo!

{August}

 

I did not change my life over night—I didn't even do it in a year. It's a lifestyle, not a quick fix. Commit to yourself. 

{September}

 

We push and push ourselves and rarely stop to pat ourselves on the back. LOOK at what you're doing. Now walk up to the mirror and give yourself a fist-bump, you rockstar, you.

{October}

 

A reminder that I think every mom needs, at any age or stage of motherhood. Even if it's only 20 minutes a day, a workout is time for YOU. 

{November}

 

One of my FAVORITES, and I aptly made it the month of my twins' birthday :-) They are not an excuse for not working out - they are my reason for working out - to be a healthy role model for them. 

{December}


Now, go kick your workout's ass.  
  
{Bonus: Cover}

 

You heard it - it's game time, ya'll. Go kill it. 
  
XO,
Nik

Psst...More fitness inspo:

http://creatingthesilverlining.blogspot.com/2015/06/commit-to-fit-6-commitments-that-helped.html
   
http://creatingthesilverlining.blogspot.com/2015/12/my-fitness-frenemies-workout-dvds-for.html

1.24.2017

6 Ways to Rock a Lularoe Perfect Tee

 

When you buy as much Lularoe as I do, you learn to mix it up! I've had a few people tell me that they don't like the Perfect Tee because it's too flowy and makes them look wide in the hips. But, ya know, letting it flow isn't the only way to style it. I for one love a little tie or a little cinch, and a little less flow. Here are my six favorite ways to sauce up the Perfect Tee {shown in size XXS}.

{Au Natural}

With the right size and right pair of pantalones, letting it flow ain't so bad sometimes!

 

{Double Side Ties}

Simply tie the slits together on each side & let the front & back flop out! 

 

{Tucked Double Side Ties}

Same as above - but this time I tucked in the front! 

 

{All tied up}

I took the "front" part of the shirt where it slits on each side, pulled it to the front and tied twice. This is my favorite to cinch in the waist! {You could also tuck in the back and just have a cute little double-knot in the front.} 

 

{Side knot}

My favorite and most go-to Perfect Tee style - one side tied up to show off your waist, but have a little flow, too! 

 

{Side tuck}

Instead of knotting the side, just tuck it in! 

 

All six ways are equally as simple, ya'll. What's your fav?

What Lularoe piece do you want to see styled different ways next? Let me know! Chances are, I own it... {and then some.}

XO,
Nik

Psst...More style inspo:

http://creatingthesilverlining.blogspot.com/2016/02/valentines-day-3-ways-girl-next-door.html